{"id":26092,"date":"2022-10-07T17:53:04","date_gmt":"2022-10-07T21:53:04","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/edyka.org\/?p=26092"},"modified":"2023-08-23T10:17:54","modified_gmt":"2023-08-23T14:17:54","slug":"bedroom_mess_draft","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/edyka.org\/en\/bedroom_mess_draft\/","title":{"rendered":"My bedroom is always a mess"},"content":{"rendered":"

[vc_row][vc_column][vc_single_image image=”25489″ img_size=”medium”][\/vc_column][\/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][vc_custom_heading text=”ORDER OR CHAOS?” font_container=”tag:h2|text_align:left|color:%23011eaa” use_theme_fonts=”yes”][vc_single_image image=”17942″ img_size=”Full”][\/vc_column][\/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column]

<\/div>[\/vc_column][\/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column width=”1\/2″][vc_column_text css=”.vc_custom_1676331436009{margin-bottom: 0px !important;padding-top: 14% !important;padding-right: 5% !important;padding-bottom: 10% !important;padding-left: 5% !important;background-color: #011eaa !important;}”]<\/p>\n

Why children don’t like to put away their items?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

Why do they tend to leave everything lying around?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

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Because mess\u00a0is more\u00a0<\/span><\/strong>comforting<\/b><\/span><\/span>\u00a0than order!<\/p>\n

It’s more fun<\/span><\/strong> to have a room full of toys!<\/p>\n

\u00a0It is an expression of their\u00a0imagination<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

Mess also reflects their\u00a0freedom,\u00a0<\/span><\/strong>independence<\/b><\/span><\/span>\u00a0and creativity<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

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<\/div>[\/vc_column][\/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column addstyles=”color-white” css=”.vc_custom_1676328281703{background-color: #011eaa !important;}”][vc_column_text css=”.vc_custom_1676329647302{padding-top: 5% !important;padding-right: 7% !important;padding-bottom: 2% !important;padding-left: 7% !important;background-color: #011eaa !important;}” el_class=”color-white”]<\/p>\n

We have all tried various methods with our children of different ages, some have worked and others have not.
\n<\/span><\/strong>Here are our experiences of what we think works best in different situations.<\/span><\/strong><\/h4>\n

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<\/div>[\/vc_column][\/vc_row][vc_row css=”.vc_custom_1676329735055{padding-top: 2% !important;}”][vc_column width=”1\/4″ css=”.vc_custom_1676329710188{margin-right: 0px !important;padding-right: 0px !important;}”][vc_single_image image=”26050″ img_size=”full” css=”.vc_custom_1676328674686{margin-top: 5% !important;margin-right: 5% !important;margin-bottom: 5% !important;margin-left: 5% !important;}”][\/vc_column][vc_column width=”3\/4″ css=”.vc_custom_1676329726620{margin-left: 0px !important;padding-left: 0px !important;}”][vc_column_text css=”.vc_custom_1676329763306{margin-left: 0px !important;padding-top: 1% !important;padding-right: 5% !important;padding-bottom: 4% !important;padding-left: 10% !important;}”]To begin, clear rules<\/span><\/strong>\u00a0about food and space must be established.
\nFor example:<\/p>\n
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  • food is only allowed in the kitchen and in the dining room,<\/li>\n
  • explain the difference between common spaces and the child’s private space.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n

    Value or reward<\/span><\/strong>\u00a0the child’s\u00a0efforts.[\/vc_column_text][\/vc_column][\/vc_row][vc_row css=”.vc_custom_1676329992486{background-color: #efefef !important;}”][vc_column width=”3\/4″][vc_column_text css=”.vc_custom_1676329861306{margin-top: 5% !important;margin-bottom: 5% !important;margin-left: 2% !important;padding-right: 2% !important;padding-left: 2% !important;}”]Children need to be taught how to organize themselves. This is a real\u00a0learning process.<\/span><\/strong> Encouragement and help make tidying up faster and more efficient. As time goes on, parents will do less and the child does more by himself.[\/vc_column_text][\/vc_column][vc_column width=”1\/4″][vc_single_image image=”25509″ img_size=”full” css=”.vc_custom_1676328936097{margin-top: 8% !important;margin-right: 10% !important;margin-bottom: 5% !important;margin-left: 5% !important;}”][\/vc_column][\/vc_row][vc_row css=”.vc_custom_1676329824218{margin-top: 5% !important;}”][vc_column width=”1\/4″][vc_single_image image=”26054″ img_size=”full” css=”.vc_custom_1676329034302{margin-top: 5% !important;margin-right: 5% !important;margin-bottom: 5% !important;margin-left: 5% !important;}”][\/vc_column][vc_column width=”3\/4″ css=”.vc_custom_1676329917986{margin-top: 5% !important;margin-right: 5% !important;margin-bottom: 5% !important;margin-left: 2% !important;}”][vc_column_text]Establish regular routines\u00a0<\/span><\/strong>from an early age. At least once a week, repeat instructions often, and do things sequentially<\/span><\/strong>, step by step, one type of tidying at a time.[\/vc_column_text][vc_column_text]Teach the child to put away a toy, a piece of clothing or an object before taking out the next one.<\/span><\/strong>[\/vc_column_text][\/vc_column][\/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column width=”3\/4″ css=”.vc_custom_1676330926740{margin-top: 5% !important;margin-bottom: 5% !important;margin-left: 2% !important;padding-top: 5% !important;}”][vc_column_text css=”.vc_custom_1676330169039{margin-top: 5% !important;margin-right: 2% !important;margin-bottom: 5% !important;margin-left: 2% !important;padding-right: 5% !important;padding-left: 3% !important;}”]Provide boxes or baskets, colored or patterned labels, <\/span><\/strong>located in\u00a0strategic places,\u00a0easy to use.\u00a0<\/span><\/strong>[\/vc_column_text][\/vc_column][vc_column width=”1\/4″][vc_single_image image=”26658″ img_size=”full” css=”.vc_custom_1676329149801{margin-top: 5% !important;margin-right: 5% !important;margin-bottom: 5% !important;margin-left: 5% !important;}”][\/vc_column][\/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column width=”1\/4″][vc_single_image image=”26068″ img_size=”full” css=”.vc_custom_1676330194455{margin-top: 10% !important;margin-right: 5% !important;margin-bottom: 5% !important;margin-left: 5% !important;}”][\/vc_column][vc_column width=”3\/4″][vc_column_text css=”.vc_custom_1676330841438{margin-top: 5% !important;padding-top: 5% !important;padding-right: 2% !important;padding-bottom: 2% !important;padding-left: 2% !important;}”]When tidying up, use playful<\/span><\/strong> elements such as timing<\/span><\/strong>, music<\/span><\/strong> to set the pace, etc.[\/vc_column_text][vc_column_text css=”.vc_custom_1676330249213{margin-bottom: 3% !important;padding-top: 2% !important;padding-right: 2% !important;padding-bottom: 5% !important;padding-left: 2% !important;}”]For young children, our toolbox contains songs and rhymes\u00a0<\/span><\/strong>that will motivate them.[\/vc_column_text][\/vc_column][\/vc_row][vc_row css=”.vc_custom_1676330085938{background-color: #efefef !important;}”][vc_column width=”3\/4″ css=”.vc_custom_1676330355803{margin-top: 5% !important;margin-bottom: 5% !important;margin-left: 5% !important;padding-right: 3% !important;padding-left: 2% !important;}”][vc_column_text]Use the\u00a02 minutes rule.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

    Any task that takes less than 2 minutes should be undertaken\u00a0immediately. Simply because you would waste too much time planning it for later or rereading it again and again each time you consult your to-do list.[\/vc_column_text][vc_column_text]Apply the 5S rule<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

    The term \u00ab 5S \u00bb comes from 5 Japanese words:\u00a0S<\/strong>eiri (storage),\u00a0S<\/strong>eiton (tidying),\u00a0S<\/strong>eiso (cleaning),\u00a0S<\/strong>eiketsu (order),\u00a0S<\/strong>hitsuke (thoroughness)[\/vc_column_text][\/vc_column][vc_column width=”1\/4″ css=”.vc_custom_1676330746167{margin-top: 10% !important;margin-right: 10% !important;margin-bottom: 5% !important;margin-left: 5% !important;}”][vc_single_image image=”26078″ img_size=”full” css=”.vc_custom_1676330714755{margin-top: 10% !important;margin-right: 10% !important;margin-bottom: 5% !important;margin-left: 5% !important;}”][\/vc_column][\/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column width=”1\/4″ css=”.vc_custom_1676330548769{margin-top: 5% !important;margin-bottom: 5% !important;}”][vc_single_image image=”26066″ img_size=”full”][\/vc_column][vc_column width=”1\/2″][vc_column_text css=”.vc_custom_1676330445817{margin-top: 15% !important;padding-right: 3% !important;padding-bottom: 3% !important;padding-left: 3% !important;}”]If you ask your child to vacuum, they may be more likely to tidy up their space.[\/vc_column_text][vc_column_text css=”.vc_custom_1676330479870{margin-bottom: 15% !important;padding-top: 3% !important;padding-right: 3% !important;padding-left: 3% !important;}”]When there is too much mess, set a deadline by which the space must be clean. If they fail to meet the deadline, place all items in a large garbage bag<\/span><\/strong> and take away everything (without throwing it in the garbage).[\/vc_column_text][\/vc_column][vc_column width=”1\/4″ css=”.vc_custom_1676330613219{margin-top: 5% !important;margin-bottom: 5% !important;}”][vc_single_image image=”26060″ img_size=”full” css=”.vc_custom_1676330593919{margin-bottom: 5% !important;}”][\/vc_column][\/vc_row][vc_row css=”.vc_custom_1676331002525{margin-bottom: 2% !important;background-color: #efefef !important;}”][vc_column width=”1\/4″ css=”.vc_custom_1676331596244{margin-top: 5% !important;margin-bottom: 5% !important;margin-left: 2% !important;}”][vc_single_image image=”26072″ img_size=”full” css=”.vc_custom_1676331618010{margin-top: 15% !important;margin-right: 5% !important;margin-bottom: 2% !important;margin-left: 3% !important;}”][\/vc_column][vc_column width=”3\/4″][vc_column_text css=”.vc_custom_1676331172875{margin-top: 2% !important;padding-top: 5% !important;padding-right: 4% !important;padding-left: 4% !important;}”]Ask your child to always leave a passageway between their bedroom door and their bed.[\/vc_column_text][vc_column_text css=”.vc_custom_1676331194491{padding-right: 4% !important;padding-left: 4% !important;}”]On day set aside for cleaning, ask your child to tidy their space or at least to pick up what is on the floor. If they fail to do that, no one will clean their space![\/vc_column_text][vc_column_text css=”.vc_custom_1676331215593{padding-right: 4% !important;padding-bottom: 2% !important;padding-left: 4% !important;}”]I was sometimes so frustrated that I ended up tidying my daughter’s room, picking up everything that was on the floor and making piles of papers and notebooks on the desk.\u00a0This always ended badly because she couldn’t find anything.\u00a0There was\u00a0method in her mess<\/span><\/strong>, known only to her![\/vc_column_text][\/vc_column][\/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column width=”1\/6″][\/vc_column][vc_column width=”2\/3″][vc_single_image image=”26063″ img_size=”large” alignment=”center” style=”vc_box_circle” css=”.vc_custom_1666381591114{background-color: #011eaa !important;}”][\/vc_column][vc_column width=”1\/6″][\/vc_column][\/vc_row]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

    [vc_row][vc_column][vc_single_image image=”25489″ img_size=”medium”][\/vc_column][\/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][vc_custom_heading text=”ORDER OR CHAOS?” font_container=”tag:h2|text_align:left|color:%23011eaa” use_theme_fonts=”yes”][vc_single_image image=”17942″ img_size=”Full”][\/vc_column][\/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][\/vc_column][\/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column width=”1\/2″][vc_column_text css=”.vc_custom_1676331436009{margin-bottom: 0px !important;padding-top: 14% !important;padding-right: 5% !important;padding-bottom: 10% !important;padding-left: 5% !important;background-color: #011eaa !important;}”] Why children don’t like to put away their items? Why do they tend to leave everything lying around? [\/vc_column_text][vc_column_text css=”.vc_custom_1676331447059{margin-top: 0px !important;padding-top: 10% !important;padding-right: 8% !important;padding-bottom: 14% !important;padding-left: 8% !important;background-color: #efefef […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":214465249,"featured_media":25490,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[301],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-26092","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-organization"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/edyka.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/10\/pexels-photo-5247758-e1692800262719.jpg?fit=400%2C400&ssl=1","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/edyka.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/26092","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/edyka.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/edyka.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/edyka.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/214465249"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/edyka.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=26092"}],"version-history":[{"count":64,"href":"https:\/\/edyka.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/26092\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":32959,"href":"https:\/\/edyka.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/26092\/revisions\/32959"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/edyka.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/25490"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/edyka.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=26092"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/edyka.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=26092"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/edyka.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=26092"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}